There are two kinds of fear in our lives: the natural kind that protects us from physical danger, and the unnatural kind that exists only in our mind. It is the one in our mind that stops us from truly living our lives in complete authenticity.
Fear is like a virus that causes havoc. It creates suspicion, mistrust, anger, hostility, aggression, anxiety, worry, hopelessness, and a host of other negative emotions. In fact, most of humanity's problems stem from fear. It is important to remember that fear is just an energy that can be redirected into a direction of your choosing.
Our biggest challenge is not the fear, but being opened to new information about fear. Did you know that 99% of fear is not about the now, and it is normally not about the reason you think it is. In fact, most fears are not real. Fear is justified less than 1% of the time you experience it.
What Are Fears?
* Irrational beliefs about how a person, place, thing
* Fear is an emotion that places blame and often has us neglect responsibility.
* Can be a product of religion
* Negative self-scripts you have either given yourself or someone gave you
* A weak self-image and self-concept
* Emotional blocks, unconscious messages that result in your being resistant, hesitant, or unwilling to participate in the now.
* Beliefs that are not conducive to who you are today.
* "Comfortable" ways of acting and responding because the fear has become a habit the have become second nature; therefore, fear feels natural.
Keep in mind fear sells, and the media and people selling products use fear as their number one motivator. Basically, fear is a motivator and sales strategy.
Excuses behind which people hide to avoid change or growth.
Where Does Fear Come From?
History teaches us fear
Religion threatens us with fear
Fears are passed on from generation to generation.
Fear can be based from past experience.
Politic can teach us fear
Media produces fear
What Happens When We Have Fear?
Mind Spam and How It Works
Why do we spin out so many thoughts all the time? We sit and try to quiet the mind, but it just rumbles on and on, churning out masses of thought, small, and large, and pink, and yellow, and bland, and slimy. It is like we have mind spam, unwanted junk. Do you realize that you create your own fear? You do this by thinking about negative outcomes to whatever it is that you want to do. If you can cause this feeling in yourself, it makes sense that you can also change it. Keep in mind that thought in and of itself has very little substance. That’s right you heard me! The truth is that our mind is always thinking and if every thought manifested itself, we'd all have nervous breakdowns!
Thoughts are fleeting creations—they arise, take form, and dissipate.
Thoughts are energized by reacting to them with emotion, generating more thought and more emotion. Did you know that if we hold a thought and the associated emotional energy for 68 seconds or more, we begin manifesting that thought? We feel it. We start reacting and most of the time our reaction is fear based. If you let fear get the better of you, you’ll end up being locked within a prison of self-doubt and this will have a negative impact upon your ability to grow in life and to try out new experiences. The important thing to remember is that although some events in life are naturally met by a feeling of fear.
Fear—Cortisol
Aggression, arousal, anxiety, feeling stressed-out, activates addictions, depression, breaks down muscles, bones, and joints, depresses immune system, increases pain
clogs arteries, promotes heart disease, and high-blood pressure, obesity, diabetes, osteoporosis, decreases work production and motivation.
Love—Oxytocin
Anti-stress hormone, feeling calm and connected, increased curiosity
Lessens cravings and addictions, oxytocin appears to be a major reason as to why SSRIs ease depression, positive feelings, facilitates learning, promotes healthy social behavior, repairs, heals, and restores, faster wound healing, diminishes sense of pain,
lowers blood pressure, protects against heart disease, increases work productivity and motivation.
How we create Fear
We weave these stories we tell ourselves. Let’s say we have a story about how we will never move ahead in the world. So how do we get the story to jell?
a) We make a up storyline.
b) We gather a cast of characters.
c) We assign the cast their roles.
d) We create situations that hold us back.
e) We put our cast to work.
f) We put the voices of fear and doubt into action.
g) We turn our story into reality.
h) We tell the story.
Most stories we tell, have strong negative emotions with threads of fear woven into them. This presence stunts our growth, and helps us to remain in fear and the associated emotions and feelings.
So how do we disassemble it and change the fear vibration?
* Say “no” to old habits of fearful thinking and automatic responses.
* Say “no” to drama and media that ignites old fears.
* Insist on changing your self-talk into what you want.
* You have thousands of thoughts a day, but keep in mind your mind can only think one thought at a time. So make it one you want to experience.
* Discover where your fear comes from. Understand their roots.
* Get rid of irrational beliefs.
* Take that negative thought and turn it into a positive.
* Identify the fear analyze it. Is it real or did you make it up?
* Relax, physically, reduce anxiety and tension, around the fear.
* Establish a sense of confidence in your ability to overcome and deal with the fear.
* Let go of insecurity and develop trust.
* Permit yourself to be vulnerable to change and growth.
* Be here in the now.
* Stop obsessive thoughts about the feared objects or events.
* Put it into a realistic perspective.
* Accept that fear is a human quality.
* Allow for discomfort and pain.
* Know it will pass.
* Try not to feed it energy.
* Locate the truth and only the truth.
* Maintain the motivation to change and grow.
* Take risks!
* Imagine what is the worst that can happen.
* Remind yourself of the four noble truths.
* Build courage.
* All thought is prayer and words are actions…You spot it you got it.
We are not born with courage but it takes courage to live life to its fullest.
Perhaps the strongest weapon against fear is courage. Courage is taking a hold of and admitting your most important fears. When you build courage, you put fear behind you. Courage is the process of admitting that you have fears, yet you are willing to find a way to defeat those fears and not allow these fears to take control of you.
This is Tyler Woods with this months newsletter. Remember, walk in peace and not in fear.
